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This autobiography reads like a page turning novel. Wow.
Dynamic writing style; humor, insight, real life considerations...???who would think a book of nonfiction autobiography about the process of therapy and being a therapist, could be so engaging and insightful?
And so I say, ... excellent...excellent...excellent.
And a reminder ...... that when we learn to truly ask questions of ourselves, we will learn to communicate better with other people --- because we're comfortable asking questions.
This book is a passage into seeing some of the energy and processes involvement in any therapeutic relationship...it gives hope. Hope is precious.
I once read that therapy is like confession without absolution. This book made me feel that perhaps one gets absolution too after therapy. Lori Gottlieb in her book shows that therapists are human too and just as vulnerable. This book is a remarkable commentary on the human mind in an easy to read format of stories of Lori and her clients as also Lori and her own therapist.
Interesting book both from the therapist seeking therapy and how she sees her clients. A little too much detail, I started skimming when she went on and on and on about her Boyfriend break up and details of her clients lives but still, interesting.
This is a warm, thoughtful, and relatable book. Gottlieb's vulnerability and her compassionate view of her patients are on evidence here. Her emotional journey and the well-defined and satisfying arcs of her patients make this an engrossing read, while her deep knowledge about psychology, psychiatry, and the history of therapy blend in to the narrative so smoothly you don't even realize you're also learning while getting some great stories. Emotionally raw at times, there is a frankness about death, loss, and the fear that starts for many of us in middle age that is examined here in more depth and with more gentleness and joy than I have seen before. There are some desperately sad moments that I won't spoil but want to warn people who may have experienced loss or are experiencing loss soon - this book will make you have all the feels.
This was an utterly engrossing read, and it really gave me a lot of food for thought. I am a huge proponent of therapy (I myself have benefitted from it greatly), but this book offered me a perspective I embarrassingly have never considered - that of the therapist. After reading this book, I couldn't help but wonder, what does my therapist think of me? Does she like me? Does she talk about me in therapist work groups? Has she ever needed therapy? My therapist always seems so wise and put together, it is difficult to imagine what she might be like in the "outside world." Lori makes the role seem so incredibly sophisticated, and at the same time so incredibly human. Here we get a multi-focal look at her life and work through the lens of her personal experiences, biases, and training. It was a very smooth read that universalizes therapy and gives us an insiders look at the dangerous traps we often find ourselves cycling in. I cannot recommend this book enough. Even if you think you don't need therapy, you may find out that you do!
Not your normal dry, technical, self-help book. It's like a double feature... a funny book that teaches you a new way to look at yourself and life. Great read!
A nonfiction book about therapy may not sound glamorous (and I guess it isn’t) but this is definitely not a dry read. I mean, what could be more exciting than learning universal truths from other people’s personal issues? Plus, the nosy part of me loves getting a glimpse into what people talk about in therapy. Is that normal? I don't know. Maybe I should talk to someone.
I really enjoyed this book! Part of me felt like I was in therapy, not a bad thing. I enjoyed following the stories and therapy sessions of characters you come to care about.
Author takes us into the lives of some of her clients as well as insight into herself as a therapist. She is willing to expose herself as a professional and a human being with stuck views like the rest of us. Brave, sensitive, and quite entertaining. Written for perspective and revelation.
For a few days after reading this book, you're going to talk like a therapist. It's infectious. Instead of your usual responses, you start to pause a little longer and allow the communication to be less about you and more about letting people come to their own conclusions. Instead of telling people your opinions, you're going to ask more questions directed at them. Deeper questions. Questions that have nothing to do with your agenda. You can't help it. She puts you into the therapist frame of mind so well that you don't want to be an advice-giver. You want to learn how to listen. You itch to grow and be a good person in the world.
Not only that, but this is an entertaining book. If you love reading advice columns, this is cake with whipped cream and strawberries. It's an advice column over a length of time so you can see the happy endings and consequences and changes happening in people's lives once they face their fears. It's delicious, feel-good, and in a small way, a bit of schadenfreude.
Hard to believe I enjoyed this book so much as I despised her first book, "Stick Figure" where she acts like a spoiled brat and calls it eating disorders. She, like her patients in this book, has come a long way. Inspiring.
I greatly enjoyed this analysis of an analyst, providing lots of insight into what quality therapy looks like. Gottlieb is amusing, insightful, detailed, honest in her telling of why finding a good therapist to review our story can provide monumental changes in how we live our lives. Definitely worth the time taken to read.
I heard Lori Gottlieb interviewed by a couple of people, and she's funny, engaging, and ethical. I really liked this book, because I am curious about therapy, and this book provides some behind-the-scenes descriptions, enough to give me a sense of what it is like. If I could get Lori Gottlieb as my therapist, I would sign up today. As it is, I'll just continue doing nothing...
The way Gottlieb weaves together the stories of her patients and herself is impressive. The storytelling is engaging and reading about people's lives being transformed with hard work and self awareness, and in an honest and truthful way, is inspiring.
That was an absolutely incredible dive into a world I know little about. I am almost a purely fiction reader, and when I venture out of that realm I stick to short essay collections and things that make me laugh. This made me laugh, true, but it also made me cry, and I didn't have the luxury of saying "this isn't a real person, this isn't a real situation," to make myself feel better. Yes, she admits to having combined some stories to protect confidentiality and changing names, but the end result is the same- we all need to talk to someone, and watching the journeys of the people who talk to experts in compassion is a very personal and challenging one. But it makes sense that this is a bestseller. I love it and I want more.
What happens when a therapist needs to see a therapist? “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone” tackles the subject. The author, herself a therapist, decides to see a therapist to do some “crisis management” after her boyfriend of two years announces that he doesn’t “want to live with someone who has a kid.” (He knew she had a child when they first started dating.) What Gottlieb thinks is going to be a quick bit of managing the pain of her breakup turns into something else. The chapters take turns with her visits to her therapist, the patients she’s treating (including a seemingly obnoxious Hollywood television writer, a young newlywed who is dying of cancer, and a several times divorced woman who seems to want to throw away her one chance at a good relationship) and how she came to be a therapist after working in Hollywood on shows such as “E.R.”. It’s interesting to know that therapists can sometimes doubt their abilities to help their patients and struggle with keeping their own judgments and biases in check. Gottlieb also writes about how modern health insurance has discouraged people from seeking therapy and encourages the use of drugs instead (which of course can also be helpful, but shouldn’t be someone’s only choice for the long term.) This book made me laugh, cry and really think about how therapy works, for both the patient and the therapist.
There's a theory that med school students who go into psychiatry often are motivated by a need to figure themselves out. Even therapists have problems!